You know, there was a time not very long ago when I was outside in my hammock, crying.

I was thinking that I couldn’t take being in a relationship anymore. I was feeling trapped. Overwhelmed. Thinking I wasn’t getting what I needed.

And the funny thing is, there was also a part of me that knew that I had created this energy in my life, and it actually had nothing to do with my relationship dynamics.

 I was playing by societal rules that other people had created for me and was caving to the pressure of outside expectations. (And, perhaps, the hormones of perimenopause weren’t being super helpful.)

Therefore, my unconscious mind was focusing on how I wasn’t doing enough.  Wasn’t successful enough.  It loved reminding me of all the ways I wasn’t getting rewarded for my “hard work.”

It showed me the times where I had self-sabotaged.  You know, like when you let the ball drop, on something, lose momentum and have to expend extra energy to pick it back up again!

It’s like pulling a yacht through water.  Once it’s moving, it is easier to keep moving.  But starting forward movement from a dead stop?  So tough.

Because the unconscious mind likes generalizing everything, it also started noticing lack everywhere else.  Suddenly I had a lack of connection, a lack of support, a lack of money, a lack of freedom… and the list goes on. 😢

And the funny thing is, is none of it was true.

Where Focus Goes Energy Flows- In Relationships & Beyond

This is what happens with your mind– where focus goes energy flows. 

When focus draws into the not-so-amazing aspects of your life, you naturally search for,interpret, favor and recall information in a way that confirms or supports that belief or focus. 

In other words- whatever you are focusing on for a period of time, your mind finds more of it.  To make it more “fun,” your brain likes to really find the stressful areas.  You know—to “Keep You Safe.” 🙄

So it’s no wonder that sometimes you are living your life and pause and think…

I should be more happy.  Why aren’t I? 

And the lack begins.  Did you know it can be transformed immediately  by a mindset shift, a belief change, a redirection of focus, or a desire and intention to find the peace, gratitude, and the simple purpose In your everyday life? 😍

It’s your responsibility to make yourself happy. (Yes, having support around you helps a lot)

And the relationship I was in was (and continues to be) really great.  I just had to take some time to reset my focus. To see where things were going right.  Where he was being supportive.  Where he was putting effort into the requests I made of him. ❤️

And guess what?  The storm passed. 

Nothing has changed except my focus (and my level of gratitude.)

Have you been here before? Are you in this place now as you consider your relationship, your health, or your career? 

I’d love to hear what you have to share.  Contact me and let’s chat!

Until then, SENDING SO MUCH LOVE,

Dawn

PS. I really do want to hear how things are going for you. ❤️