Did I Make The Right Decision to Break Up?
You want to feel valued in your relationship and, for now, this one is over. Did you make the right choice with the break up? Struggling with divorce on the horizon? Or is it time to pause the regret and envision your next harmonious relationship?
Separation, Divorce, and Breakups Are Not Easy
Ending a relationship is never easy, and it’s common to be filled with conflicting emotions. If you find yourself in a persistent state of sadness, loneliness, panic, or regret, wondering if you’ve made the wrong decision, take a deep breath.
Here are key insights to help you gain confidence in your choice and begin the journey of letting go and moving forward.
Grief ≠ Wrong Choice
It is completely natural to grieve the loss of any relationship. You spent time and energy with another person, which creates a sense of bonding and connection. Have you seen this research from the National Library of Medicine?
“In 129 romantically involved adults whose partner expressed gratitude to them in the lab, greater oxytocin over the prior 24 hr was associated with greater perceptions of the expresser’s responsiveness and gratitude, as well as greater experienced love…”
Oxytocin is the “feel good” or “cuddling” hormone. You get to feel the loss, even as you reflect on the positives that can come out of this decision when you give yourself time to heal.
Signs Your Break up was the Right Decision
1. You’ve Grown Apart: If you and your former partner have fundamentally different values, sometimes love alone isn’t enough. Sometimes there are betrayals, built up resentments, or conflicts that both must be willing to heal and resolve to move on. Do you want to find out for sure? Invest in the self-guided When to End It, When to Stay Course. You have forever access. Or, check the next live online offering here.
You get to learn Emotional Freedom Techniques to calm current emotions so you have calm and clarity about your next steps. If you realize leaving was a good idea, you win by not bringing baggage into new relationships. If you decide you should have stayed, the class will help you find the resources and healing to make amends and see if repair is possible.
2. Overriding Peace and Relief: Despite the presence of emotions like fear and sadness, an overwhelming sense of peace can indicate that the breakup was the right choice. Recognize that some relationships can be limiting to personal growth. Others have reached their natural end stage.
c. Fear of What’s Next: Feeling scared about the unknown is normal. Questions like “Will I be lonely?” are typical post-breakup concerns. Fear or dread about being single and dating again also can fill your mind. Acknowledge these emotions, and breathe deeply. Do emotional healing work with someone so you are making all decisions from a place of confidence and choice.
Discover Your Guide
You have what it takes to have a loving, joyful relationship! Yet you need a compassionate and skilled guide to help you create a firm foundation and path forward. Dawn who is well-informed about options, can help you calm big emotions and end indecisiveness as you conquer your fear and doubt. She knows this is a challenging decision for you, and is here to help you step-by-step.
- Schedule A Complimentary 30-minute appointment with Dawn
- We will have a conversation about your decision and potential impact on your life
- Together, we create a plan to find peace and gain confidence to see your way forward.
You Can Transform Your Life
You want to come out of this break up and have confidence, safety, and security around your future. Find happiness! You deserve to be joyful and know you made the right choice. Know you deserve a relationship in which you are heard, seen, and loved.